Whose Wedding Is it?

I’m STILL available for graphic design work (can you believe I’m not booked up?)

I was at a wedding fayre yesterday (at the lovely Cock O’ Barton pub in Cheshire if you wondered). I was doing my thing, acting like a proper, decent wedding magician – making people laugh while doing card tricks – you know, the kind of chap you should really book for YOUR wedding…

(Sales message over…)

…Anyway, between tricks and giggles, I got to chatting to the brides and grooms and I noticed something alarming.

More than half of the couples I spoke to had booked something that they didn’t actually want at their wedding.

Investigating further (I’m in full Columbo mode now!), it turns out that they’d booked it either as a compromise to appease a family member or because they felt that they SHOULD book it.

The word SHOULD always scares me. Especially when it’s used when planning your dream wedding.

It made me realise that, even though weddings are now more liberal affairs than ever (you can even get married in B&Q for crying out loud!), the pressure to conform to someone’s ideals is still there.

There are still SHOULDs.

It may be a pushy family member, a culture, society or that Instagram influencer you really like prodding you but, despite all the perfectly acceptable, legal and decent options, we’re still hearing the word “SHOULD”.

“You SHOULD have a three-tier cake…it’ll look good on the photos…”
“You SHOULD go for a formal, sit down wedding breakfast…it’s tradition…”
“You SHOULD invite Alan…if he makes parole…”

SHOULD. SHOULD. SHOULD.

As a wedding magician, I often hear brides and grooms ask me to perform during the wedding breakfast. Maybe they’ve seen a handsome chap doing magic tricks at a corporate event around the tables and just assume this is all we do.

Don’t get me wrong, I CAN do this, but, in my opinion, I’m far more useful elsewhere.

When I explain that I can keep their guests happy during the photo period, for example, there’s always a little surprise.

“Maybe you’re worried about your guest’s energy dipping after the meal…before the Puerto Rican Death Metal band fires up…?”

One of the best things about magic is that it’s versatile – it can be performed pretty much anywhere, but that’s not just true about magic; a lot of elements that will go to making your wedding day special are able to be tailored to suit you, rather than the shoulds.

Here’s what I always ask brides and grooms:

“Which bit of your wedding is giving YOU the most concern? What are YOU really worried about? What would YOU like in place to make YOUR day perfect?”

There’s no SHOULDs, because, on your wedding day, it should all be about YOU.